The White Flag
Sunday, October 11, 2009 at 03:41PM A couple weekends ago when I was meeting with an old friend...they asked me about Matthew and I's relationship and said "do yall ever fight?!" I took it as a compliment that they even asked- as if to be a sign that we seem to get along well enough that they wonder if we do in fact disagree. I laughed probably louder than necessary and replied "Of course! We are human." And after that weekend, on our way back into Austin, we started up a small spark of a disagreement that shortly turned into a rampant forest fire. We fought through several small counties until we finally were ready to lay our guard down and learn to respect what the other was saying. Basically, it came down to me being stubborn and him trying to deal with me, which of course only fanned my flames at the thought of being handled like a small child.
But in our almost 2 years of marriage, I have learned the importance of having grace. And I do believe it goes for all relationships. It's so hard for our stubborn nature to lay it all out, especially at the risk that what we have will not be well-received. In the midst of personality-clashes it feels like it would take the strength of Hercules to put the other person's needs before their own, but really it just takes the strength of one humble heart. There are certainly times when I can't fathom anything but my own way as being right, but grace lends a hand and makes a path for understanding and even acceptance. It compells me to lay down my armour and wave that crispy clean white flag.
And after our argument, the rest of the way home concluded in Yo Momma Jokes said in the Moto Moto voice from Madagascar. Perhaps aside from grace, humility, and mercy... alot of it is not taking yourself too seriously?!
Reader Comments (7)
Rachel these look amazing!! I can see so much growth in your photography since I first started following your blog. Keep up the awesome work girl!
Can your posts hit home with my life any closer? You have shown me grace, humility, surrender and above all else love. You and Matthew are a special couple and even when times are tough you can see the bigger picture. Thanks for sharing and being real! I am thankful all those cities or counties ended on a "this is just another part of life". You have and will continue to teach me so much! I love you friend!
Oh and I love these photos! The color is incredible!
Wow, these are gorgeous! Love the color...and man, she is stunning.
love the color and processing rachel! What a pretty girl, too. great shoot!
I LOVE LOVE LOVE that last shot. WOW what an amazing close-up. B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L !!! Great job girl.
Absolutely gorgeous! #3 is my favorite. :)